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S10E10 - From Divorce on Zoom to a Mic and a Movement: How She Turned Healing into Culture, Growth & Community!!
Six years can change everything. We trace a candid path from a marriage that ended on Zoom to a creative life rebuilt through podcasting, plants, and community. The conversation moves with ease from laughter to strategy, landing on what actually sustains a creator’s soul: showing up, following through, and letting joy interrupt the grind.
We dig into entrepreneurship as a personal development marathon—especially when you don’t inherit a playbook. Neurodivergence reframes overwhelm and idea overflow, while a simple approach brings focus: collect ideas, connect them, then choose what fits under one roof. That mindset powers an inventive niche at the intersection of Black culture and horticulture, where an episode like Single Plant Parents grows into a live event and deeper community. Along the way we honour mental health with an unexpected ally trash TV and comedy because switching off decision-making is sometimes the smartest strategy in the room.
Community remains the backbone. We trade practical tactics for building real currency: pull up to local events, support DJs and creators, repost generously, and if you can’t attend, ask how to help. Conferences are treated as starting points; the magic happens in the follow-up week when introductions become partnerships. If you’re navigating a pivot, battling decision fatigue, or juggling more ideas than hours, this one offers both comfort and a plan.
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It's the unofficial official takeover of talk shit with P. It's your girl. Holy talking. Talking shit with P. I love talking. Talking shit. Just shit. It happens to be a special PMI. So it's a good time. No shit was missed. Drinks was drinked. Drunk. Drinked. Drinked. And um everybody's winning. Feel me? I'm just talking to the audience.
SPEAKER_04:It's my first day, night.
SPEAKER_06:Okay. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Can I have my glasses? They're puppy with it.
SPEAKER_05:Oh, I love it. Yes. It's just coming in hot, you know? Future's so bright, you gotta wear shades. I'm blind to you.
SPEAKER_00:Haders.
SPEAKER_05:Right.
SPEAKER_00:Yes. Good way, no high. Hey, hey, hey! Hello, talking with P.
SPEAKER_05:Talking big shit. I'm ready. I got my shades on because he was just bright, blinding me.
SPEAKER_02:Today's been a day, y'all. Um I recorded with that incredible Mark. And then me, Mac, and Carla got to have lunch together. I'm trying to do those more things. And I I and I wanna shout out Walter because Hey Walter. He The Great Walt. The Great Walt. Um he brought this idea of let's get back to just meeting people and hanging out without just it being an event or a planned. Like, to be, I feel like we are so constant that whenever we meet, it has to be a podcast meetup or podcast conference or event or whatever. So um last week he invited me to pop warm, and I told him never to do that again because I don't like healthy. And if you're gonna invite me to a place, at least make sure they have alcohol. I'm sorry. I literally but the highlight was meeting Hannah. Hi Hannah. Uh and me and Tamara went across the street while they they were eating their healthy shit to the bar and we were drinking, and then we caught up with them after their lunch and after a few bars. Good thing they allowed me to. It was an open container square. Still, I was walking around with my beer and we hanged out and they walked with me until to my next place. Like it was just it was just nice not being an event or anything. Okay, I'm rambling now. Anyways, here we are. Season 10. We're loving it. When is your anniversary?
SPEAKER_05:November 19th. Drop it on my anniversary. Yeah. Drop it on her, drop it on her, drop it on her, drop it on. I'm sorry.
SPEAKER_00:Drop it out, drop it out, drop it out.
SPEAKER_02:It's anniversary, man. So we're gonna jump into that. Since this episode is gonna come like a week before your episode, your your anniversary. So uh we're gonna shift this a little bit around. Let's just jump straight into that. Um how many years are you celebrating and what does this anniversary, this particular anniversary, mean to you apart from me? Now you met the gorgeous me, of course.
SPEAKER_05:Yeah, that's a game changer. I got you. I got no, this I love the organic nature. I love that I get to be here with you. You're six. Six years. I am just a few weeks short of six years being officially uh in population. That's big. That's really big. Cheers to that. We're gonna be toasting quite a bit on this here.
SPEAKER_00:Six years.
SPEAKER_01:What is six years of you doing this means to you? What does this university mean to you?
SPEAKER_05:Oh, Ng, it means it means growth, it means scale, um, it means gratitude for having been able to do anything for this long. I've never done anything for six years. I've never met me like what?
SPEAKER_00:What's the shortest what's the longest shift you've ever done?
SPEAKER_05:I would say so. In my former life, I was a truck driver and I did do that for about six-ish years, but not six consecutive years back to back.
SPEAKER_01:Like one and all. Yeah.
SPEAKER_05:I mean, outside of that, I got kids, and and you know, I've been taking care of them for more than six years because the oldest is 19, then we got 13 and 11.
SPEAKER_00:Wait, you have a 19 year old?
SPEAKER_05:Chow. I know I don't look at, but indeed she does. Okay. Yes.
SPEAKER_02:Um, so speaking about that, you you say this being your longest, right? Now, because I'm just nausy and because we're on top, she would be so I'm ready. What what has been your longest relationship?
SPEAKER_00:Oh, we're talking shit like you're the one who said you've never done something this if you wouldn't have put it up, I wouldn't have liked to question it.
SPEAKER_05:Yeah, my longest relationship was my marriage. I was married for about eight years, I want to say. And let's just say eight, because I don't feel like doing math. Yeah. It happened. It's done though. I got divorced on Zoom. That's my favorite.
SPEAKER_02:Was it in coffee?
SPEAKER_05:It was.
SPEAKER_02:I mean, at least you're not those people who are married at Zoom. I feel like divorced on Zoom is much better. Like, I don't even want to see my nigga, like, tell me what don't say to the girls that have been married on Zoom.
SPEAKER_05:Congratulations on your notch. Do whatever makes you ask whatever tears to you and and that person that you uh then it eloped. Is that eloping?
SPEAKER_00:No, that's just making it happen.
SPEAKER_02:No, I feel like eloping is you choosing, but when it's happening because you have no option, it's not a lobby. Because if I decide today to wake up and be like I'm pulling everybody on Zoom and doing it, that's me a lobby. Or I'm put I'm going to the courthouse. But then if circumstances are making you do that, it was not your first choice. But circumstances, it's technically not a lot thing.
SPEAKER_05:Okay. Well, I was divorced on Zoom, and um I actually that took place after I had gotten into the podcast, but the relationship ended right before I launched my podcast for real, like less than 30 days before. So that was very helpful for me in being able to change my energy expenditure. So now it's instead of me being focused on being a wife, I could take the wife's energy into the podcast. And so that's what I did.
SPEAKER_02:I love that. Um you replaced the husband of the podcast, the making space for that podcast. Yeah, you thought together real bad. So I'm curious, right? Uh, when you divorce on Zoom, do you have like a lawyer presence for the signing?
SPEAKER_05:Yes, they were at the courthouse. They were in one state, and I was not able to make it to that state. So I was just like, you know, everybody's doing everything on Zoom, so let's just get this over with. Literally, literally.
SPEAKER_02:This is um random and out there's little state, but you remember that guy who had a traffic uh ticket or whatever, and he had to appear on court via Zoom in the sky, and then he his license was suspended, but he was traffic, and he was attacking.
SPEAKER_05:Like the one lady, she was like smoking a butt or something, and she was trying to do like this, like legit. Like we like like y'all look at y'all looking at me, y'all the judge, and then here she goes like this. You could tell I'm smoking, you can still smoke. I wish we were smoking right now, in fact, but I digress.
SPEAKER_02:People were doing, I feel like the only part I miss about COVID is seeing this watch your shit backfire because people were not really most people are not used about used to doing things online because we are used to just being on the phone so nobody seeing shit, right? Where people would get up and they have boxes they forgot because they are just people are still got a porn tab open, just doing but that guy, I'm like you have one job, just stay on park, get the judge to whatever, and go on. Now you're going all the way to jail.
SPEAKER_05:Even then in the car, like I don't even want the judge to know that I have access to a car that I can drive. Are you crazy? He deserved whatever he got. That was dumb, sir.
SPEAKER_02:If you're watching this, now I need to go and find out what happened because I don't think we have paid attention. I know, right? Because when life went back to normal, what is it really been normal?
SPEAKER_04:Because every day something I feel like nothing has been normal since 2020.
SPEAKER_05:No, it wasn't even really normal then, but now it's just like I don't know what this is, but it ain't normal.
SPEAKER_02:2020 are walking a lot of shit, and I feel like maybe we need it. We need um you need to wash away all your sins and rebonds. Yeah, like of course the whole planet is going through a speech of cleanse, cleanse was the one. I mean, we when we're talking about cleansing, we're also talking about gross, rebranding, pivoting, because when you're cleansing yourself, you are again, as I say, either you're seeing the person who you are, and then you're realizing this is not the person who I wanna be, so I'm gonna make changes, I'm gonna uh pivot, I'm gonna redirect, because again, depending on the informational the journey you are in, right? Right. So with you uh and Black in the Garden uh and six years coming up, I know uh from since I met you, we have spoken on different ideas that you've you've brought to me and uh different connections you are looking to make and uh the changes that you're making. Um how do you how do you see this the past six years of life in garden have been and what do you like what growth has come up of it for you as an individual, not for your podcast, not for you, but you as a person?
SPEAKER_05:Oh, what growth? This is a great question, asking me, who is you know, the plant lady, the the black in the garden uh plant podcast lady who just you know is very concerned about the blacks getting getting in the soil. So as far as my growth, we come from the soil. It's like it's hard for me to talk about my growth without talking about what how my work has influenced my growth. Um, because learning as much as I've learned over the past six years, uh, let's say entrepreneurship for one, I didn't realize that starting this show would get me more aligned with entrepreneurship. And the thing that I learned quickly about entrepreneurship, come on now. The thing I learned quickly about entrepreneurship is it's it's a personal slash professional development journey. Um if you go to school for it, which I did not, then I can imagine it is an experience where, you know, you're applying the things that you've learned. But if you didn't go to school for it, and you don't come from a family culture that is, you know, entrepreneurial, then you are really just figuring things out for yourself. And it's uh it's been quite a journey. So what I can say about my growth, having said all of that, is that it has been rapid, it has been expansive, it has been consistent. I am still growing. There have been times over the past couple years where I'm like, I can feel growth. And I'm talking about like this personal development, spiritual type of growth is what I'm feeling. And it is very exciting, but it is also it can be frustrating. I uh I have felt crazy a lot. You know, the more that I get to understand certain things about myself, like most recently, um, having a touch of what I call like neurospiciness, a little neurodivergence, just a combination of a few letters, maybe like A D H D. But yeah, child, the growth, the more things that I learned specifically about myself, the better I understand myself. Because in learning more about neurodivergence through the lens of, well, maybe you got a little bit of it, girl. How how is this how can you with that understanding understand so much more about not just yourself, but how you're operating in the world and and how you're operating in relationships? It has been a game changer for me. So yeah, the growth has been it's been very real.
SPEAKER_02:I love that. And you're so right. I as a person who advocates for mental health and talk a lot about mental health, I've taught people that reality with mental health is just that it takes a specific event or moment or time issue for it to actually come out. You might think you don't have mental issues until you end up doing something you you you never thought or whatever, or be in a space you never, and then next thing you know, you're getting panic attacks or whatever. You know, it comes out at a time when it really is, and that's why I say we all have mental struggles. Some are just waiting for them to come out. But also speaking of uh of growth and entrepreneurship, that's how I feel about uh about uh my podcast. Um growing up, I always knew I wanted to work in events, I didn't care about owning my own shit, but I was very big about owning a t-shirt line because I loved t-shirts, I loved weird t-shirts, and most of the time when you see me out, I'm wearing t-shirts. Like if I'm actually wearing a unless I'm wearing a dress or something like that, I started to sleep soon. We love to rip some, but um, I'm always on t-shirt, like my closet, I have a whole stuck down there that is just t-shirts. Uh I've always been a t-shirt girl, but um, when I started my podcast, I didn't it was just a boredom thing during COVID, right? Something to help me with my mental health, and and now uh that's why when sometimes people ask me, Are you making money from your podcast? I'm like, no, but it's more than money, like the opportunities, the people, the strength and growth in myself. I don't think I would have gotten it if I'd have continued being in retail or actually did events and just being a corporate ladder because I never thought about owning my own business, getting entrepreneurship. That shit is hard. I don't know why people keep telling people you should be your onboard. Like uh the the freedom of it is amazing. But uh making sure you you get a check and money, that's a whole other thing. But you really uh and I didn't know again, um, I come from a world just uh I do have people in the entrepreneurship world, but it wasn't like the first thing. My parents didn't care what we did as long as we did something which I paid for and we went to school as long as we go to school and get the F out of the house. Like um and some of us are lucky to have that where we can still go back home. You're lucky if you can still go back to fine going. So if you do have that, I'm not saying go back home, but I'm saying you should be feeling privileged if you can. Because I was talking to a lady grateful. I met in TRX, and um, the reason she was able to grow a TikTok and now she makes a lot of money is because she moved back home in a parish that will support you for a near if this doesn't work for a near. And that gave her enough time to really be like, okay, if I'm not worrying about anything, I can grind and make it now. She makes almost five, six, two, whatever a month on TikTok. So for those who have that big lag, but um, all to say is the growth that I've seen to be able to speak on stages. I'm sure I hated doing presentations in school. Now I imagine of speaking on stages where people are listening to the meeting. They should be alright. You know, and and also um, shout out to Dominic Lawson. Um, he said something to me after that panel because he has seen me uh moderate. My first panel I moderated was in afros and our years, I not last year, the year before. Because last year I was in a panel I didn't moderate, but the year before, which was my first afros, and my teammates who didn't even know me, we were meeting on Zoom, we met twice on Zoom to plan it, had full energy, like you can moderate, go ahead. And so Dominic was in the first seat in that, and to see me also in Pierre X was like, Your polar. I see the growth from there to now, and to hear somebody, because sometimes we don't see our own growth. And I think that's why it's good to be in these communities and going to these conferences because the people who are watching you, who met you, probably saw you last day at this conference, and now they're seeing you and they've been following you. They'll be quick to tell you, I've been following you, doing amazing.
SPEAKER_00:Because sometimes when you are in that house, because things are not making sense or moving, you don't feel it like I'm still behind yes.
SPEAKER_05:I deal with that pretty much every day. And that is a big part of the reason why I am so keen to make sure that I'm plugged into and actively engaged in community, especially the podcast community. It's a very supportive community. Um, and I the the alternative is isolation, um, you know, outside of like having friends and having supportive people. But um that has been very important to my growth because like I doing having, I'll put it like this having the standards that I have means that when I've done something, when it's done, I am so done with it. And it's not something that I'm considering is like, oh, that was amazing. It's very much like what am I doing next? Not like how do I do better, but just what am I doing next.
SPEAKER_00:And I keep moving forward.
SPEAKER_05:It's just it's not, and it's not coming from a place of where I'm like, I gotta outdo myself or I gotta do outdo anybody else. I don't operate in a way that is competitive, but it is just very much me being um, I use this term, I think I came up with this term hyper creative. I always want to be making some shit up. I'm always trying to do something like I ever I come up with ideas very quickly, very easily. And so when I say I'm just ready to get to the next thing, it's because there are so many ideas that I want, they're like bubbles. And and I know you can you'll love this analogy. Bubbles in the champagne glass. All the bubbles want to come to the top. They all want to come to the top, and and that's how my ideas feel. And so once one bubble gets to the top, the other bubbles are like, hey, when do we get to come to the top? So that's why I feel overwhelmed a lot, and I I gotta work on that, to be honest, you know, in real time. That's that's something I gotta work on. It's like it's never enough.
SPEAKER_02:And I feel you, because I'm like you, and that's why I also I feel like my biggest shit is I watch a lot of trash TV, and when I watch trash TV, a lot of people laugh at me, but it's really research. Oh because you will hear the women, either the things they're fighting about, acting, or the conversations they're having, or the parties they're throwing, it will give me ideas myself, like this is a conversation I should have with my girlfriend. This is a conversation I should bring this this person and we do a live. Oh my god, I should throw this type of event to be like so I get, and then all these ideas are coming, and then now I'm like I start getting out like, and that's why I also watch them when I'm depressed. It it builds up my creativity because next thing you know, I'm getting out of my bed, building a notebook, and I'm and I'm reaching out to people, yo, are you free this weekend? We should talk about, we should go online and have this conversation.
SPEAKER_05:I'm gonna tell you how I feel about Trash TV, but I want you for this weekend.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, so from that, I end up coming with so many ideas. And Joe one time told me I was like, it's good to always have an idea, ideas, but if you're constantly doing things and you're not letting them marinate and grow, you're just gonna be that person who's just doing shit. So you strategy. Yeah, he was like, Paula, you are a person who deals with people and whatever, you can do whatever you want. But bring these ideas, write them down, see how they connect each other, then from the one side, really connect, pick those, and then let the other ones grow through that. That way you are building and instead of just when I'm gonna. And then episode two, we talked about it on episode two because um he was talking about me that in Chicago earlier, and he told me that I was like, you know what? It does make sense because I have all this stuff I'm doing, but now instead of making them separate, build it under one house. Yes. And that's why talk share with P, I say, we are going, we are being done for now, but not forever. We are taking a break. Taking a break to figure out how to make it for the next of 2026, because we're we're gonna be building rapshire with P. That way, when Talkshire with P comes back, it caught I have figured out how to bring Raphship with P in, and then we continue building the brut the the roof.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah. So I like that.
SPEAKER_05:So I didn't forget about the trash TV, but to that point, I will say, because I have so many ideas, and sometimes they don't seem to be related to what I already have in motion, I take my time to find a way to plug it into what's already happening. So what's happened over this past year and change with the Black Kim and Garden podcast has been exploring some really fun subject matters, some fun topics. One of the episodes that we did that I'm particularly proud of was single plant parents. And single plant parents, I knew when I started thinking about how to promote the episode that it should be an event. So we just recently just had that event.
SPEAKER_02:And I loved it because I was watching the stories, and now it was like you kind of feel like a like you are going for a date, like a dating, but you know, like, oh, I'm sick, I'm looking for a parent, it's like a co-parent. Like it was just branding.
SPEAKER_00:Yes, and um shout out to Hannah and Holder for sure enough for that.
SPEAKER_02:We did tell them last year on Wednesday. It doesn't matter. They do. Yeah, yeah. And that's one of the the things I love about you as well. From when I met you, everything you show up, which uh I want to get into that, but before we get into that, I want you to finish your thought on on that, on your plot-based, and then you're attracted because we're gonna well that was that was primarily it.
SPEAKER_05:It was just knowing that when I have all these ideas, the best that I can do for now while I'm still operating out of a very specific niche, which is at the intersection of black culture and horticulture. Anything having to do with plants and black people and nature, or however I can make that work, um, that is how I'm making the things make sense to the niche that I'm currently serving. But I go by Cola B talking, and that was always intentional because I knew from way back when I was in college and I was trying to figure out like how am I not gonna fuck out? I had to turn determine what is your top skill set? What are you the best at that you feel the most natural at and that you know that you're good at, and that you can also say that other people can see it too. And that was talking. It was just the ability to communicate well and effectively. So there's that. But as far as the trash TV goes, world, I don't watch anything passively either. So I appreciate you that you're saying that you're watching anything that most people would associate specifically with entertainment, they would just watch it and they would just be mindlessly entertained, which is what I do, and that's the point that I'm gonna get to. But what I tell my kids all the time is when I'm watching TV, documentaries, TV shows, whatever type of TV programming or even movies that it may be, I'm not watching passively because I'm always categorizing information. So anything that I'm picking up on, um, I like watching shows where there's like a different culture outside of mine that's represented because then I'm able to get a little better of a worldview, stuff like that. I like watching documentaries because, you know, that's basically kind of like a it's like a it's like a picture book. Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah, because like I like information in books, don't always want to read, but that doesn't mean I don't like reading. But my point being, what the first thing I thought of when you said trash TV is for my mental health, what I've realized very recently is because I'm constantly making decisions as an entrepreneur who is also a content creator, and I know that term is a little oh God, don't I wear a lot of hats that are like very big hats.
SPEAKER_02:I think decisions come from being a monk because you are taking care of humans and then everything and then everything flows after that.
SPEAKER_05:It's a big responsibility, and it's so big that I can't really afford to have the weight of that always be like felt on me. But that goes to the point that I was gonna make, which is very simple. Sometimes I need trash TV just to zone out. I remember because like when I'm sitting down or when I get in my bed after hours and I'm trying to determine how do I unwind? How do I I always want to learn? Like, I always want to learn. I always YouTube is my favorite. I watch YouTube more than I watch Netflix or Hulu. I truly do, because I like the way that information is more organic there. I like the way that the information is very niche. You can find very specific things, you can find things that can help you in your self-discovery, in your, you know, your learning. There's a lot of documentaries. I'm not gonna try to shout out too many people, but I do want to shout out intellectual with an ex because she is outstanding. She was recently named as uh Time Creator of the Year. Um, and she is a black woman who emphasizes black lady stuff, especially history, through the lens of black womanhood. So I want to give a big shout out to her, but her content is so information rich. I would watch her all day, like for real. But I can't be trying to learn all the time. So I realized, oh, I need trash, I need mindless TV. And that's how I came to the conclusion that trash TV is helpful for that. It's kind of a little bit of escapism. And so I if I'm on YouTube, I'm gonna be trying to learn something or trying to listen to some music. So I have to go off of YouTube. And what I have been well, I keep up with comedy podcasts. So I love the read that was very influential to starting my podcast.
SPEAKER_02:I want the read, it's the only podcast. I have what I have the socks. I went you got the socks too. I have the socks, I have the do-rag, I have the bonnet, I have several shirts. And and and and I listen if you watch my stories right now, uh huh. I I just posted you know this thing will come up with it. I know. I'm sorry, but um, maybe I will repost it when this comes up. But I literally let me show you since you're here. Let's look at it. Let me show you something. So I was dressed this way. This was 2017 October 4th. And of course, the hair.
SPEAKER_04:You went to their last show? Is that 2017? It was the 2017. OMG.
SPEAKER_05:No, I gotta show you because I've been to their last two shows.
SPEAKER_02:In case I might not be able to Are we going in February?
SPEAKER_05:They're coming to Antifeboy. No, they always do an anniversary show in February. Where? In New York. I've been going the last two years.
SPEAKER_04:Oh, very good.
SPEAKER_05:So shout out to the OGs three, you know, in in the category of Black Urban Podcast. They definitely uh have been pioneers. But I'm just saying all that to say that I know when I'm trying to figure out, okay, what is the TV that is, or not the TV, but like the entertainment that is going to allow me to actually turn my brain off a little bit. It is comedy. You know, just joy. Because sometimes we just need to have a good time just for the sake of having a good time. But I look at workaholics. It's so stupid. I don't know if you've ever seen workaholics. Ooh, that show was properly dumb. And I love it when I just need to look at something stupid.
SPEAKER_02:But but but that's why also I I'm not a big movie fan, but but by shows. Like even sometimes when I I can't find a good show, my shows are out. I'll go back to the Gilmore Girls or Comfort TV. Yes, that's why everything fresh. Exactly. Even when back in the days, reality TV was just for me to tune out. It was until I started my podcast where I started seeing reality TV like a tour, even though it's still entertaining. And I mean, this if you look at how many real housewives branches that they are love, love is blind, married at first sight, all this.
SPEAKER_05:Love is blind, love is nearsighted.
SPEAKER_02:And it also teaches me on the type of love. I also want like it's entertaining. It takes me out of my depression because now I start laughing at shit. And then I'm like, damn, this gunless woman are fighting about this. Clearly, I cannot have problems because some of them are going to jail. I should be happy. But it it also accomplished like it's all a mixture and one. And that's why I'm like, I'm always going to choose shows over movies, because the movie you have two hours, one hour, two hours, you're done, and then still pre spare for movies like I used to.
SPEAKER_05:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Because I look at it like, oh, so this is two hours, even though it will be a movie comedy or love, con, and I think I really want to see it, but then I'm like, because even it's a race movie with Keke Palmer and Sesar. Oh, there was something. I wanted to go to the cinema, but I was really like, nah. Then it came out. It's on Netflix, it's on whatever. And then I've downloaded it, I still haven't like, even though I know I know I want to.
SPEAKER_05:Oh my god, we're gonna smoke and we're gonna cook.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, that was I think it was um even um during COVID, the only ways I would watch movies was when Netflix had that um co-watching, whatever. I don't know, but maybe my friends in Canada would do that, but during COVID, everybody had time, right? Now together time to do and in time. But but but but that's the sake of it. But um, now that we're done with Trash TV, right? I was saying um when we mentioned about your plant event and Walter and Hannah coming out, and I recently met you. We met in July at PR. Shout out to Pierre.
SPEAKER_05:It's not like it was way longer ago than that, but you say so.
SPEAKER_02:Because we've been seeing each other. Like she's just showed, and this is the thing. She tells me to pull up and I just pull up. You remind me of loyalty, because when I met loyalty, and loyalty is this um gosh, she's like, you're Paula, if you tell me and if I can make it, I'm coming. I'm pulling up. And if I can't make it, I'll let you know I can go. And because loyalty has a very um, is it six, seven-year-old, and she leaves the home with that? Yeah, and so she has to make sure the dad is available to watch her or somebody. So for that, but because most of our all the kids, they're all grown and in college and whatever. So if it wasn't for the younger one, she would be pulling up for anything, but you know, you still gotta make sure your kid is right. But um, the reason why even I fuck with her because she'll show up and she won't just hang around me. Like she will go and do her own damn thing. Next thing it will be an event that I know everybody knows me, but when I'm leaving, they'll be like, Do you know about it? Exactly. And that's the same with us. Um ever since I met her, you've been showing her, and that's why it was very important for me to show up for you for your birthday event in back and then even bring a friend, like, oh my god, we also got amazing candles. I ended up buying candles that wasn't supposed to be. And I ran out of them real quick. Like, I'm talking about Saturn, Saturn something. I forgot them, but they're still gonna support the other entrepreneurs, especially. Rap shit with P is more than just a name, it's what we do. We make visions come alive from branding and match to curated gifting and virtual assistant services. We help creatives, entrepreneurs, and businesses show up bigger, bolder, and better. So if you're ready to level up your vision, connect with us on IG at wrapshitwithp or wrapshitwithp at gmail.com. And that's wrap s-t w I T H P RapshitwithP at gmail.com or wrapshit with P on Instagram. Lapshit with P where access meets energy, where passion meets execution, and where every detail gets wrapped with love and excitement. So here's to season 10. The final season of Doc She We P. The one people who remembered me from Faye's event, and they think you're gonna have a few wine and a half a bottle of the couple.
SPEAKER_05:Excuse me, a few months. Um not months, a few weeks ago.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, because there was just that. It was September. We were coordinating this, you know. October, we're October now, literally wasn't that's what I'm saying.
SPEAKER_02:As far as I'm concerned, it's still September. When you say the months, it also feels a little bit but let's get back to the point. The point was there's power in showing up, and that's why I tell people like you can belong in communities, and but if you're not showing up, how do you expect community to show up for you? Like, if I don't know you, if you're not supporting. So I want you in your own ways. Um, I know you've been showing up before you met me and all the other people because because I've seen how much events you got to. I think she's the business part. Like the Don't do that.
SPEAKER_04:I am not the business. Like, when you look at her stories every day, I'm like, how did you go to all these events? All my stories like that. That was just this story I was.
SPEAKER_05:I planned it out, and these events uh in space were very close together. So it was easy for me to get to them and don't drive. So I'm like, um, Uber train and uh and a little bit of a lot of things.
SPEAKER_02:That's why sometimes I might miss events depending on my bank and uh distance because Atlanta, some of the best sports are very far off. But then when you don't drive, it's like uh for driving can be 35 to 45 minutes now. Yeah, but when you're on a train, it's like a bus, a train, a bus, a train, a walk, uh whatever, and it's I'll take the train and then I'll get an Uber after the train.
SPEAKER_05:But I'm gonna take it.
SPEAKER_02:That's what I'm saying. Sometimes you miss because you can't you gotta make sure that your funds is funding.
SPEAKER_04:And I get that. You know we understand each other. But my point, let's get back to the point.
SPEAKER_02:Um, can you can we talk a little bit about the power of showing up? Uh well, the power of showing up is what has that done for you?
SPEAKER_05:Well, I came to understand through being engaged in so many communities, whether it was it was always like a lot of creative communities. Um, and and I really learned this very well from DJs. Um DJs are always doing stuff, you know, and some events are free, some events, you know, you gotta pay a little cover, and that's fine. You know, like you said, if the funds are funding, let's have a good time. I'm pulling up, I'm showing up. But something that I came to really appreciate in uh getting to know so many DJs, I can put 10 DJs right now off the top of my channel.
SPEAKER_02:I have a DJ I have six years too because I dated them in Malaysia and they exhausted me.
SPEAKER_05:So I'm not gonna say too much about close proximity that I've had with DJs because that's I don't want to sell that part.
SPEAKER_00:But send them to my favorite DJs, DJ L P DJ Crepes, I got you.
SPEAKER_02:Um the Afras and Olive, even dripping in black. We were in a retreat together, Dominic. Um, they ran up.
SPEAKER_04:He's gonna be an Afras and Olive. Of course. Come on, he's gonna be DJ. He's speaking, he's speaking of Dominic.
SPEAKER_02:I know, I have a meeting with him tomorrow. That's the only reason I was like, I was gonna go to Alfredo because I've never met him? No, no, I've met him. We were we have met, like we know each other so well because he comes to he he has been to Alfredo, he has DJ'd Alfred.
SPEAKER_05:Of course he did.
SPEAKER_02:He was supposed to come to the Detroit retreat because we did uh first retreat this year, but uh he had uh job opportunities, so you know we we support that. So yeah, even Craig, like those are like even Craig, they sometimes get to the Twitch. Uh huh. Craig is the one who picked my picture for the new episode that uh Dominic interviewed me. Like we have a project of like that's that's the and and it's one of uh because it talks a lot about community, he does that is the neighborhood homie, period. That's the benefit. Exactly, yeah. And and um uh one thing I liked because I even told him I was like, I like your realness on threads. If you guys are not following him on threads, you go and follow him on threads. Yeah, he is the realest shit and he just keeps the bitter reality keeps it real. But we we like we have four DJ R Pete over here. Yeah, very, very uh team DJ.
SPEAKER_05:And that would be the only reason I go to our just to get back to a point that I was making before we realized that we had that amazing person in common, who I met him in Jacksonville, by the way, because that's where he resides. Um, and that's where I was residing for a year before. So, um, what was the other thing I was gonna say?
SPEAKER_02:And what you learned from the DJs?
SPEAKER_05:What I learned from the DJs is going to events. How it works is the DJs, when you come to their events, that's like that's better than money. You know, when you're showing up and you're showing up consistently and supporting them as DJs, then that is just like it's a morale boost, but it's also like a good way to lock in. For example, to a DJ's event, to a promoter's event, to um just any creative, and you're showing up to their events, then it's like you're you're just kind of building that currency up with them. And so when you're getting ready to do yours and you're asking people to show up for you or just help you promote, then it's just kind of organically like, yeah, of course, I'm gonna take care of you. Because when every time I look up from these turntables, I see you in the crowd. I see you not just pulling up, but I see you actually on the dance floor.
SPEAKER_02:Like, we're having your girls, your boys, telling people about it, reposting your social media, even if you're kind of commenting.
SPEAKER_05:Yeah, so I want to give a big shout out to DJ Wiley Sparks in Atlanta because that's that's the DJ who I have been seeing most consistently at events because he's just curating these really dope events that are very specifically themed. Annually, we got Twenko and Glisten, which is Southern hip-hop classics. And I grew up in the South and I love hip-hop, so naturally it's a fit for me. But um, High Top Fade is bringing back like 90s rap and RB, New Jack Swing specifically. You know, like it's a vibe. And so I'm I'm pulling up to those events, and I'm also uh in between events, I'm asking, how can I support you?
SPEAKER_02:You know, people understand that question. Somebody recently told me, uh, wrote a post on LinkedIn and I was like, uh it was kind of dedication post to me, but like um Oh, a dedication? Kind of. Um, I don't want to put all the credit on me because I don't like the spotlight on me because I don't do it for the credit or whatever. There's one two spotlights. What are you saying now? I mean in a most shape. Two spotlights on you. What I'm saying, what they told me about the event. I told them I'm not sure if I can be able to come, but let me know how I can support you. And I help promote, I help connect them with people, yeah, future sponsors. Uh whether it works out for this year or maybe next year, because this is their first year, so you still gotta build the momentum. Some people can't do it this year, but that doesn't mean you can't build it for next year, right? Uh and I feel like that's the thing with networking or people showing up. People always assume that if I show up, it has to be now, but play the long game. It's always the long game. Like keep on keep on building it and in time. So they wrote a post and uh because after I even told them about uh podcast movement, and then uh after the event, I reached out because I ended up meeting. I've known her, but we've never met in person. And uh a partner I just met because she connected us. She was like, This is the guy who's also planning it, he's buying everything. So we got to meet in real life, and and on the first night we closed the bar, we really didn't leave until the bar was closed. Including Joe from Wopart were there, we were drinking. Um, but um after that, when we came back, I messaged him and I was like, hey, now that we have rested after a week, um, here's my my my link. Please book a time so we can talk and see how far you are, and we I see how I can support you. We jumped on a call, we talked, and they told me what right now they needed. I was like, I'll see what I can do. And the fact apart was I sent an email to Todd that day, and the next day I found out we passed away the day before. So it was like, oh hi, bad. But anyways, recipe stored. I know that's my baby. But um, she went on and posted on LinkedIn, she was like, the power of showing up and having the right people in your corner, because even if they personally can't support you, it's the fact that they can ask you, how can I help? Like, yeah, and that's exactly what I just said. That's why when you say this, I was like, it brings because sometimes you might not be able to afford to attend, or you can't make it, uh, or the scheduling, you know, whatever it is. But you can always ask people how can I help? How can I support? Other time, it could be even, hey, can you put a post? Can you collaborate on a post?
SPEAKER_05:Like, you know, you pass out a few flyers, because you take some time out of your day.
SPEAKER_02:So I'm can I send can I send you a match and you post with it? Like, it's just simple things. So we should always remember to to ask the people we love and support. How can you help? Because some people are very hard at asking help, including myself. Enough of the calls from after that. I I I tried my I try my best because I'm intentional networking. So when I meet people in conferences, I tell them, after the conference, give me one week because I really need to Yeah, it takes a week to recover from a conference. And especially if it's a four-day conference, because podcast movement is four days. Usually VFist was two days, PRS was three days, and at least three days in the afternoon.
SPEAKER_05:It would be so much easier if we could just have fun at the conference and then we go home and it's just like we have fun. But that's just the beginning. And you know what you gotta follow up.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. And I learned this a long time. The first time I went to Portfest, which was my first conference, I didn't do shit. And then when I was going back to the sitting here, I was like, Damn, I don't want to be that person who just ends up meeting people at a conference and then doesn't talk to them until the next year. Like, yes, we follow each other on social media and like and comment, but that's not about that. That's not talking. That's not that's not relationship with them. Exactly. And I didn't know that when I first started. But so from from the second professor, I was like, I want an intentional network. So from there, when I meet people, those who I really wanna move it further than just see you next year, when I come back home after a week, I'll send an email. Or send them if I don't have the email, check on them on Instagram, DM, or LinkedIn. Be like, hey, it was so nice to meet. When are you free to catch up and say how we can support each other? Because then there, because in conferences you can talk. But in that one hour, depending on how many people you are, you really don't know, and nobody's telling you from the straightforward, I need help with this, this, this.
SPEAKER_05:But then when you come back, have but a surface level of attention to give.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. Yeah. But when you come back, then I'm you make things and you really talk and you hear what people are working on and what they need out. And that's what people are telling me. I was like, Paula, half of the time when we get on a call, you are constantly taking what we can help. We never get the chance to even ask them like I do that in purpose because I don't make the time for you to ask me, because half of the time I don't know what I need help with. But one thing I know is I like connecting people. I like seeing people I know are in the same nature, doing something similar and looking for that, just end up on the facilitate those relationships. It just makes me happy. And because I know when I need help, people will come help me. Not like not to brag, but right.
SPEAKER_05:It's not bragging, it's just you you understand. I think that's part of the strategy. It's not that you're doing it because you're trying to benefit, you naturally do care about connecting people. I do, but you understand that the benefit that naturally comes along with that is people helping you reciprocally.
SPEAKER_02:Exactly. It's a circle. And stay tuned for part two coming to you on Friday. Don't forget to check it out.
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