BONUS EPISODE - Losing Everything: When Your Past Goes Up for Auction!!

Have you ever stood at the precipice of asking for help, but couldn't bring yourself to take that final step? That paralyzing feeling of vulnerability might be more universal than we realize.

When I lost everything I owned to a storage auction over an $800 debt, I faced a brutal choice: ask for help or let go of a decade's worth of memories and possessions. The anxiety of putting others in an uncomfortable position—of them having to say no, or saying yes when they couldn't afford to—led me to choose loss over vulnerability. It's a decision that sparked profound reflection on why asking for help feels so impossibly difficult, despite how simple others make it sound.

This raw, unfiltered conversation explores what happens when financial hardship forces us to reconsider what matters most. Would you rather lose all your money or all your memories? Before my storage auction, I might have chosen differently. But now I understand that sometimes, in our society, money is what protects our memories in the first place.

Despite this setback, I'm moving forward with intentional growth, expanding my consulting firm Wrap Shit With P to include VA services for creatives and businesses. My approach isn't about aggressive marketing or rapid scaling—it's about moving with purpose, humility, and faith that the right opportunities will find me as I continue building authentically.

Whether you're navigating your own losses, struggling with asking for help, or building a business that aligns with your values rather than external expectations, this episode offers solidarity in your journey. Join the conversation on social media—tell me which you'd choose to lose: your money or your memories? And let's talk honestly about why asking for help feels so much harder than it should.

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Transcript

The Challenge of Asking for Help

Speaker 1 0:00

People make it seem like it's so easy to ask for help, but it isn't, because one there's a chance that they can't help you and you feel even bad for putting them in that position of them to feel like they have to say no to this. They could be even going for worse shit that you don't know. But also I feel like every time I have to ask for help is putting the other person in that position where maybe they really want to help you but they can't or they don't want to, and it's okay for somebody to not want to help you. They are not obliged. Nobody is obliged to help anybody. Let's make that clear. So, all in all, asking for help sucks, and I know, hi, shit talkers.

Speaker 2 0:47

Welcome to Talks your Weepy, and I am your host, paula the shit talker. I mean, don't we all like talking shit anyways? Are you a creator? If so, you are in the right space. Talks your Weepy is a place where we showcase and celebrate the talents, works and stories of creative minds from all walks of life, while also raising awareness for mental health through providing a supportive space to share their stories, insights and experiences. We will be discussing creative journeys, the high lows and the ways we manage our mental health through it all. Join us each week for inspiring conversations, useful resources and a community of like-minded creators as we dive into the minds of creative beings to explore their journeys, struggles and triumphs. So, whether you're a seasonal creative or just starting out, talksheep repeats the podcast for you.

Speaker 1 1:48

Hello, guess who's back baby? Isn't it funny that when we decide we're no longer podcasting or taking a break from podcasting, that's when we get the urge to podcast. Happy Memorial Day, because I am recording this on a Monday, memorial Day, so a lot of people are having the long weekend. Right, it's been a long weekend. I just got stood up by my client first call, but life happens. I don't think she meant to. I think she forgot that it's Memorial weekend because she scheduled it a week ago. So we're gonna give her grace until I hear back from her. I feel like that's it, because even when she scheduled, I didn't know it until when it was on Friday and a friend of mine asked me to patch sit and I was like, oh, it's a long memory weekend, so maybe she's present with friends and family that she forgot to reach back and reschedule anything. I'm choosing to give her grace, I'm choosing to believe that until I hear back from her, which I hope is soon. But this episode wasn't about that. But it's also a reminder that communication is key, right, but let's get back to so sometime.

Losing Everything in Storage Auction

Speaker 1 3:17

Last week I lost all my shit. My shit was in the storage. I haven't had a job all of this year and you know I've been hustling, you know building my business and doing whatever I can in my way to make money. So I haven't been keeping up with my public storage payment and I received an email that said I had to pay the full $800. All my shit was going into auction and I didn't have $800. And the thought of putting my business out there asking people to help me save it brought so much anxiety that I was like I'd rather come to peace with having to lose all my shit. So I was preparing for the day to come and just I left it to God, right? One part of me was telling me that this is your past. You need to let go. You haven't needed any of these things.

Speaker 1 4:31

For two years They've been staying in storage and one part of me is like but there's so many things in there as well that you need for keepsake, you need to remember, you need to hold on to. Uh, there's a lot of things worth a lot of money you could sell and make something, and but also the thought of going to open my storage and dig into things was also overwhelming and and in my head it was like a lot of people are going through so much financial shit, even if they don't publicly put it out there. A lot of people are struggling, like we are in a season of everybody's just trying to get through. You know, and I'm like, okay, I'll make a go fund me, okay, I'll ask people, people, people will help me come up with the money, will help me save my storage. And then what happens next month when I can't pay it again Because this was accumulated through months, right? So what happens next month if I can't pay it again? And the next month and the next month, like what happens when they save me now? Can I save myself or will it be another burden? Do I have a need to go and clear the stuff? Where do they go? If I clear them out? Who's going to help me? Because clearing them out requires also getting a yuho, paying for movers to bring them up to my place, like all that more anxiety. So I decided to just come to peace with it. Like you know, what's gonna happen's gonna happen. Maybe the person who buys it will find some of my sentimental stuff and find me and reach out and offer them to me, or maybe they'll just sell it or throw them.

Speaker 1 6:19

I don't know, I'm choosing to to believe that the person who ends up with my storage maybe the stuff that meant a lot to me, whatever was saved, because I don't even remember what was saved. But as I was scrolling on Facebook Friday I believe it was on Friday or Saturday one of those days I saw a post by one of my homeboys Shout out to Billy Thropp. Saw a post by one of my own boys shout out to me lethrop. Um, he, he had a facebook status that said if you had to lose all your money or all your memories, which would you choose? And it's funny because literally that wednesday, wednesday or thursday, it's when I lost all my stuff. And this status was telling me friday, saturday, and I was reading the comments, right, and it's funny how people like I rather lose my memories. I already can't remember, I'm losing them. And it makes sense, right, as you grow some memories you just lose. And um, the sicknesses, which happens like I had my memories in a storage and I lost them.

Speaker 1 7:25

So, as much as I'd want to be the humble person and say I'd rather lose money and keep the memories, I'd be lying, because if I had all my money right now, I could have bought my memories because my memories were being sold. My memories needed money to be saved, right? So even if you're sick, you can pay people to hypnotize you and remember your memories. Like I feel like you can buy your memories. But if you don't have money and then you're stuck in a position like mine where your public storage is going to auction or you can't afford to pay for it, so you're still losing your memories. So in a different time time I would have said I'd rather lose money and keep all my memories because, again, I was a different person then. But having to go through that, I feel like money would have solved my problems. So anybody can come debate me.

Money vs. Memories Dilemma

Speaker 1 8:20

But if I had to lose all my money or all my memories, I am choosing to lose all my memories because I feel like I can buy them. I feel like even right now, if I hand the person who has my storage, they might sell it to me for expensive, but I can buy it if I have the money. And the funny thing is the storage sold it for such a low price that they sent me a bill saying I still owe them this for such a low price that they send me a bill saying I still owe them this. Like wouldn't you rather have given me the option to pay half as I keep than you going to sell it and I still have to pay for the storage without the shit. So I'm sorry I'm not paying and they say they're going to send it to debt collectors and stuff. By all means send it, because why am I paying for shit that you've already sold? It's not my problem that you sold it on the low. You knew my bill. You should have sold it on a higher.

Speaker 1 9:12

And it just kind of reminded me like the first time I had a fire. It's like having a fire again, losing everything, and it's hard. I've been going on a bittersweet One minute. I'm like, okay, I no longer have to worry about my storage payment. But another thing every time I remember about a certain piece of clothing, shoes or just the stuff that was handed to me by my family and friends and that storage had the entire 10 years of mine, whatever I've had since being in Atlanta in 2014 to right now. So it's not easy. I might talk like it is, but it's painful. It's painful to be in a position where you lose your stuff over $800. But what's more painful is knowing that they sold it for a loan and they're still charging you, but also not being able to ask for help.

Speaker 1 10:17

People make it seem like it's so easy to ask for help, but it isn't, because one there's a chance that they can't help you and you feel even bad for putting them in that position of them to feel like they have to say no to them. They could be even going for worse shit that you don't know. But also I feel like every time I have to ask for help is putting the other person in that position where maybe they really want to help you but they can't or they don't want to. And it's okay for somebody to not want to help you. They are not obliged. Nobody is obliged to help anybody. Let's make that clear.

Speaker 1 10:57

So, all in all, asking for help sucks and I know I have so many people, I know but even the thought that just pains me. And I've also been in a position where I've gone to ask people for help and they can't help me. And then there's that awkward message oh I'm so sorry, I can't do this for you right now. And then it just becomes awkward because they feel bad for not being able to help, even though they want, and I feel bad for making them feel that or be in that position. So to people out there who say I just wish you could ask me for help, I just wish you could come to me. It's not that we don't, it's harder than you could ever know. Anytime I have to ask, just know that I've really reached my lowest point and if I didn't have to, I wouldn't. So I'm asking because, literally, you're my last resort.

Introducing Rapshia Wipi VA Services

Speaker 1 12:00

So instead of me having to constantly ask for people while I'm struggling with unemployment and putting myself out there and following my dreams and my passions following my dreams and my passions I want to tell you what I am working towards. So most of you have probably heard, I've seen or already know I have a consulting firm called Rapshia Wipi, which is for gifting, branding and merchandise, you know. So we have added another component because I've been working on that for the past two years. I've had VA service background, I've been a project manager and I was like, why wait and work for somebody else when I can add the VA services into part of Rapsha WIPI? So Rapsha WIPI is a gifting, branding and merchandise consultation firm that now offers VA services as well, to help creatives and businesses show up boldly and intentionally.

Speaker 1 13:01

If you know me, you know I always show up as bold as I can and as intentional as I can Everywhere I go. Everything I do I do with that mindset of being bold and intentional, or everything I do I do with that mindset of being bold and intentional. So, from curating unforgettable gift, experiencing and developing authentic brand strategies to providing reliable virtual assistant support, here at Rapture WP, we merge creativity, efficiency and heart and if you know me, I'm all about the heart. Everything I do, I do it with a purpose and from a loving place, even when I'm hating.

Speaker 1 13:45

So, Ravshi Wepe. It's not just about wrapping products, it's about wrapping your brand in purpose, presence and personality. And again, if you know me, I don't decline that. Now most of you know my background is in podcasting, content creation, events, community building and networking. I am all about creativity and organization skills and that's where I can best support. I love being creative, I love creating and I'm a sucker for organization, like I love to organize shit. I don't know why it could have been because I worked at HomeGoods and I was a merchandiser, so organizing has been a big part of me. My background is in events. Organizing has been part of me and when you work in creativity or being a merchandiser at HomeGoods, creativity has to be part of it, right?

Speaker 1 14:45

So with my VA services, we offer admin support, calendar management, email corresponding and inbox organization, social media management and content scheduling, podcast production, apart from editing I hate editing, I don't like doing it for my podcast and I won't be doing it for anybody, to save yourself. So everything apart from podcast editing not forgetting guest coordination, networking, affiliates building, community and PR services we are here to help and support in all of that. We have three packages right. We have the fixer upper, which is light support the right hand, which is full-on delegation, flight support the right hand, which is full-on delegation, and the plug. The plug is full podcast and business support minus editing just FYI, minus editing. But in case you don't need all of that, you just need certain stuff. We have add-ons and other card services available as well. So you know, get on. There is available as well. So you know, get on there. Go to calendlycom, slash Rapshit with P and schedule a time and we can talk and see how I can support you. Also, follow us on Instagram at Rapshit with P. That's Rapshit with P On Instagram. We are available. Slide in our DMs or email us as well. Email us as well at RapshaWeepi at gmailcom, and that's RapshaWeepi at gmailcom. So if there's any way you want to support me, please, that's the best way you can support, help my small business grow. If you don't need these services and you know somebody who needs these services, feel free to recommend them to me. I'm always happy to chat and see how we can work together in all and any ways.

Speaker 1 16:53

Now, with that said, shout out to Billy Thropp for this Facebook status. I want to put it out there. Let's get into engaging. Go to TalkShareWayP, there will be a post about this episode and tell me, if you had to lose all your money or all your memories, which one would you choose? Better yet, let's talk about asking for help.

Speaker 1 17:16

Is it as easy as people say to ask for help or is it as hard? Do you get anxiety when you think about asking for help or do you just slide in? Are you easy to ask for help or it takes a while? I am the first person who will be telling people I wish you could ask for help. Ask for help when you need to. How can I help you?

Speaker 1 17:38

But I've started a strategy of, instead of telling people reach out if you need anything, I start saying how can I help you? How can I assist you? Like, what do you need me to do? Maybe to make it easier for people, because I know how hard that is. And I'll still say pray for me. I mean, I appreciate prayers and I feel like you know when people would ask me how come you're hustling humble? You know it's funny, I didn't know there's a way for somebody to hustle humble. They're like why are you not aggressive? You have all these affiliate links, you have a consultation, but you're not aggressive with your business and I believe aggression or being aggressive won't get me the clients I would love to enjoy working with or I love building and growing with.

Speaker 1 18:42

Compared for being humble, I feel like I'm a person who is a firm believer that my life wouldn't and I wouldn't still be here if it wasn't for God. God has been humbly helping me. I might have not had a job since March of this year I got let go right as I was sick, but I've been able to survive and even before that, the job I've had. I haven't had consistent hours since when fall started last year. I went from working 30-plus hours to working sometimes 10 hours, sometimes even two hours, which was still what is two hours in a two-week paycheck. So I believe it's the way I move what is two hours in a two-week paycheck, like you know? So I believe it's the way I move. God watches over me humbly. I move with humbleness in me, everything that I do. I'm humble Every opportunity that comes to me. I've been humble with it.

Speaker 1 19:50

I don't think it's time for me to be aggressive. I don't ever want to be aggressive. Actually, do I want more? Hell? Yeah, I want so much more, not just for me, not just for my life, not just for my business. But am I going to be aggressive about that? More Hell? No, I'm going to be humble with it and keep working in my purpose, humbly and believing that, just like how God has been able to provide for me, he will continue providing and bringing the right people, as I continue being humble in my journey and in my walk with my company, with God, with my life.

Speaker 1 20:38

So I could be aggressive. I mean, I have so many contacts, I have so many networks, I've helped so many people, but what do I want to achieve with that? So I think sometimes you need to look back like what are you achieving? What are you building? What are you creating? How do you need to look back like what are you achieving? What are you building? What are you creating? How do you want to move? I feel like how do you want to move is the biggest, and I want to move with intention, I want to move with purpose, I want to move with so much love, gratitude and Gratitude and humbleness in me and I feel like I will. My turn is coming. A lot of beautiful things happen. They might not happen in the progress that other people want it to, but they're not part of this journey.

Speaker 1 21:32

I am part of this journey, so I should move how I wanna move, in my own happiness you know, so the right people will find me, the right clients will come at the right time and my business will grow how it's meant to go and I will get everything I fucking want in my time. And until then, we're gonna keep moving humbly and not aggressively and I mean, there's no harm in your running your business aggressively if that works for you. By all means. I'm just a person who's not gonna compare somebody's level to my level, somebody's stage to my stage. We all have different ways of doing things and we all have different motivations, different inspirations, different aspirations, and you know there's no competition here.

Stampede Social Affiliate and Closing

Speaker 1 22:34

And until God stops taking care of me but I don't see it happening I feel like god will keep guiding me to the right direction as long as I keep believing and keep having faith in him and faith in my purpose and hope. You know gotta have hope that what's meant for you will be yours. And now let's. So that's all for my bonus episode. Yeah, I hope you all enjoy it and, who knows, I might be surprising you with another bonus episode sometime. Keep an eye out. And speaking of affiliates, did you know?

Speaker 1 23:18

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Speaker 1 24:15

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Speaker 2 24:28

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Speaker 1 24:41

So if you're a content creator, podcaster or just tired of shouting into the void, go check out Stampede Social, because your content deserves better than linking bio with zero context. Again, that's Paula20, p-a-u-l-a two zero, because I love you, but I love organized chaos even more. Don't say I didn't tell you. Don't say I didn't share. Don't say I didn't give you the good good. Don't come back to me complaining because it's right there. Go now. Go get your seven-day free trial. Thank me later. All right, y'all, until next time. Thank you for listening to my mumble. Here's my call to action Tell your friends about Rapsha WP and our VA services, our gifting, branding and merchandising consultation. Let the people know. Merchandising consultation. Let the people know. And also come over to our Instagram page and let's continue debating. What would you choose and is it really as simple as people say to ask for help? I'm looking forward to engaging with you in all that and more, until next time. Always talk your shit, okay that and more.

Speaker 2 26:09

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