S7E1 - Bittersweet Summer Goodbyes!!

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Buckle up, friends... We are back and this episode is a roller coaster ride of emotions, memories, and hopes for the future. I've weathered the storm of a challenging year, faced the sting of lost friendships, and discovered the therapeutic power of creativity. The silver lining? The unwavering support from you all, my incredible listeners, and our shared resilience that keeps us going. 

We venture into the tender territory of parted friendships and the sorrows they often leave in their wake. Sharing my personal journey of losing close friends, I unravel the pain of farewells and the wisdom they impart. But it's not all about me - a heartfelt tribute is paid to my late bestfriend Edna, Her last message is a poignant reminder for us all to reach out to those we cherish before time steals the opportunity.

Looking ahead, the excitement is palpable! I'm slated to speak at the Afros and Audios event in Oct 21st - 22nd in Baltimore, link for more details >>> https://www.afrosandaudio.com/ , have collaborations with writers in the pipeline, and am all fired up to launch new projects that will inject joy and creativity into our lives... Some IG Lives and my own book but also speaking at Podfest Expo 10th year Anniversary happening in Jan 25th - 28th 2024, link for more details https://podfestexpo.com/

This episode unveils details about my upcoming journey and our much-anticipated IG Live events aimed at strengthening our TSWP community. One on the works and one with my girls coming up every last Sunday of the Month starting with Sept 24th, time TBD!! 

Do join us as we connect, share, and celebrate our stories - one riveting episode / live at a time.

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Transcript

Season Seven Celebration and Reflecting

Speaker 1 0:00

I'm really not going to give a fuck, to be honest, because I don't give a fuck. So him making that meant that our friendship had to come to an end. And I don't know. I'm a person who takes my friendships very serious. So when I go to that phase where I have to cut off somebody out of my life, whether it's meant to be, whether the time has come, even when they've done something bad, ending a friendship is always hard y'all, especially when somebody is so you're starving them in your life and, um oh Hi, shit talkers.

Speaker 1 0:36

Welcome to Talksio Whippy. And I am your spoiler, the shit talker. I mean, don't we all like talking shit anyway? Are you a creator? If so, you are in the right space. Talksio Whippy is a place where we showcase and celebrate the talents, works and stories of creative minds from all walks of life, while also raising awareness for mental health through providing a supportive space to share their stories, insights and experiences. We will be discussing creative journeys, the high lows and the ways we manage our mental health through it all. Join us each week for inspiring conversations, useful resources and a community of like-minded creators as we dive into the minds of creative beings to explore their journeys, struggles and triumphs. So, whether you're a seasonal creative or just starting out, talksio Whippy is the podcast for you. Oh my God, we are back Y'all.

Speaker 1 1:42

Season seven what the fuck. If you had told me when I started this shit that I will be celebrating season seven almost 150 episodes I wouldn't have believed you. But oh my God, this is so incredible and I just want to say thank you all for rocking with me, for being a part of it in any way that you have been a part of it by listening, by downloading, by sharing, by being a guest, by talking shit to me about the episodes, by giving me ideas, by introducing me to people you think should be on my show. Every one of you are the reason why I am still here today. So thank you all. Man, like for real.

Speaker 1 2:41

And where do we start? All right, I guess let's start by summer. Right, because I was on my summer break. So, as I said, where do I start? Oh my God, y'all you know it's funny because I said something about this year. Right, I said this year was definitely not my year and all I can do about this year is be intentional with everything that comes my way, but I was just going to take. The year is how it is make the most of what I can and fuck the rest. Because, most of you know, this year started with my apartment catching a fire and since then I decided to just walk the road. You know, whatever comes, take it as it is and it has been one of my hardest summers, but I'm very grateful to still be here, to still have the energy I have and to still be able to keep pushing through all the shit Because, again, I say a lot about this, like when you know your papa's, when you know your why, you know of doing whatever, of being in this world, of going through whatever you're going through, of staying sane that why does come into perspective.

Speaker 1 4:07

Like every time I do want to give up, I remember why I keep fighting, so then I keep on fighting. But summer is always my birthday. You know I'm a June 29, baby, I'm a cancer proudly cancer and when the year started I had different ideas of how I was going to celebrate my birthday and by the time my birthday came it was all different. But for all of you who know me know that I really love my fucking birthday, like I just love celebrating people, whether it's my birthday or somebody I love's birthday, I go above and beyond. I don't mess with people's birthdays and I get mad at anybody who messes up with people's birthdays, because once a year you get a day that is all about you and that's all. It should be all about you. I believe in that. I don't care what you say about that, but I am a fan believer in that. So I got to spend my birthday with one of my bestest friends. I have known her since I started working at home because then we have been friends. We have done a lot of shit together. We have collaborated on different stuff. We also want to be collaborating on a new project which I will share later on down the line.

Speaker 1 5:26

But I was going to have dinner with Malaysia and Cleeter two of my girls who ride with me through most of my shit and I was going to go to my this restaurant. I've always wanted to go to Garden and I got to do that. Sadukid I couldn't make it because she ended up in a car accident, but I was there with Malaysia. The ambience, the service, the music, the food, everything was just perfect. And to just be there with my girl and just talk life, you know, and it was an amazing shit and shout out to Abida, who got to interview me. You know I never get to be interviewed on my own show, so to have her interview me, 34 for 34, you know it was like, yeah, let's do this. So if you haven't yet, go listen to that episode. You will learn a lot of shit about me as a person and as a podcaster and it's just me. So you know, if you ever want to learn shit about me, that's an episode you should check out. So yeah, so my birthday ended up being lucky.

Speaker 1 6:39

I was supposed to be going to Nashville. That didn't end up, but I still have hopes for Nashville, you know, and I feel like every time I plan a Nashville trip, something happens. But I'm trying to take that as it wasn't your time yet, because Nashville is so special for me. If you know me, you know I love country, you know I love country music, I love everything. So when I go to Nashville, I really want to be able to experience every fucking thing about it and just take it all in. So every time I have a plan on going, I always it always gets canceled and I'm just taking it as God is telling me it's not your time to be in Nashville yet, because you know I believe in the shit. And then, oh, by the way, shout out to Badwizer, an official sponsor, about one day official talk show with his sponsor. I'm just putting it out there. So what made my summer one of the hardest?

Speaker 1 7:41

We talk about summits a lot, right, and the thing is, summit doesn't necessarily mean the person you spend the rest of your life with. You know, it doesn't necessarily mean the person you end up getting married to. It doesn't necessarily mean it's a relationship. My best friend was my summit. I've had summits who are not personally dating and who have dated, but most of them has been my friends, like I've really had friends who I'm like you really are my summit, right. And then I had one guy who ended up really being my summit and not enough. Oh, we have to be together forever and get married, kind of shit.

Speaker 1 8:25

No, in a summit where our souls really connected and it became a very big part of my life, whether together or not. That wasn't the point. It was just that somebody I could talk to about anything without being judged. I would go through our shit but I would always, you know, find ways back to each other, protonically or done protonically. It's just a confusing circle. So he got married in May 11th. My summit got married on May 11th, and the thing is it wasn't the fact that he got married. I want him to be happy. I want him to get married with somebody, you know. That's not the problem. The problem is the person he got married to. Not a big fan. I don't care about her. She really doesn't give a fuck about me. She has said so much shit, but it was to me when he decided to do that, to make that decision. Has he has the right to marry anybody he wants to you know, to live his life.

Speaker 1 9:35

But I did say that I will not be a part of your life when this person becomes a full-time part of your life. And that's not of me being respectful, because if I can't respect your wife, I don't think you should be friends, because I don't want to be talking shit about your wife, you know to you or being disrespectful or any of that you know. And I don't think you'd want to be friends with somebody who doesn't respect your husband or wife or be around that you know. It is like a line and I'm this person, you know I don't like sneaking around, right, if you're my friend with a guy or not, I want it to be respectful, that your wife is okay with us being friends, that when I have my partner we can all do meetups, you know nothing. But then when you marry somebody I really don't respect, I don't feel like they should be anything because I won't be, I'll be biased when you guys have shit like when you come talk to me about shit like it's always gonna Not make it sound authentic and I'm really not gonna give a fuck, to be honest, because I don't give a fuck. So him marrying, that meant that our friendship had to come to an end and I Don't know.

Speaker 1 10:51

I'm a person who takes my friendships very serious. So when I go to that phase where I have to cut off somebody out of my life, whether it's meant to be, whether the time has come, even when they've done something bad, ending a friendship is always hard y'all, especially when somebody is so used to having them in your life and you usually used to be the first person I call about anything you know good about. I'm excited, I'm sad and mad, I'm depressed. So knowing that you're losing that connection right. So it really was One of my hardest breakup. And you think, was we dated before you think that breakup would have been had? But the breakup was all the work we had done to get where we are, being friends and creating those boundaries and Working through so much to make sure that we stay Respectable in each other's life way to just go crashing down. There was some hardship y'all. So one of my hardest things I had to go through Some and especially when it was coming towards my but I'm like fuck, you can't do this. Like right around my birthday, like now I'm already feeling this way and and it was a lot of behind the scenes, like you know, when everything is hitting you up like fuck is no longer gonna be in my life, like that's where we are heading. So that was, that was a hard pill to swallow and going from that having to to go through that and to heal from that, because I had to take time to heal and I Didn't talk about it. So I didn't tell people like, oh my god, I got my, because I didn't want the questions, I didn't want that, I wanted to heal first. So that way, when the questions come because it was never about him getting my, it was who the fuck it married. I don't care if he gets married, I want him to be happy. And you know I Stalked a few weeks ago, you know the on the honeymoon and they looked very happy and I even told my friends I was like man, he looks very happy, I'm happy for him. So you know, it worked out. I guess. Yeah, we will see, but they looked up it.

The Pain of Lost Friendships

Speaker 1 13:01

So, going through that to ending up losing a friend, I'm gonna try to Go through this without crying, cuz I had a friend called Edna and I sit there Me and no, to the same school back home, but when I had started that school, she was in there and then when I left, she came back. So, but we had one, a lot of common friends that we ended up just connecting and Most of our friendship was virtual because I just left to go to UK. So the days of high fives and emails and calling cards and you know, staying connected in that way, and we stayed and she she visited our cousins in the UK and we got to meet and hang out. When I finally went back home from UK I hadn't gone home for five years this girl Drop to the airport to come pick me and I told I was like you know, my dad is not gonna allow that. My dad will always Pick me up. At the app she's like I don't care, we'll follow. And so they literally came to the airport and they followed us in their car Back home and I was only home for one week. I spent almost every day in that one week with her. She got to meet my friends, my family, I connected different worlds of them and she just kept on being a big part of my life. Right, we went to different lives. I was in Malaysia, she was in Dubai.

Speaker 1 14:39

Then eventually, in 2014, I did my internship in Dubai and we got to reconnect. Actually, we would reconnect back in Tanzania doing the holidays, but every now and then I could see her, maybe once a year or once every two years. So when I went to do my internship in Dubai, I was like, oh my god, three months with you in the same country. So we got to spend three months together and it's funny because I missed my flight. So I got to stay one more day with that and enjoy our brother Eric's birthday. But that's the night she was acting very weird and I told I think you're pregnant. And she went and found out she was actually pregnant. She was engaged to a fiance right at that time and they got married. They ended up having another child and, sadly, the the husband passed away two years ago.

Speaker 1 15:31

So so, anyways, I have been I Suck at communicating since 2020, since COVID. I've become lazy because I've been so used to being in this alone word, just being in a space, just why? Because I went from being a person, was the one who's always checking on people, always calling, always texting, always Planning, always why? Then 2020 came and I was like, fuck it, I need to put more about me. Why more about me, make plans with me, be you know about me. So I ended up sucking at checking on people and calling back and responding, especially callbacks. I suck at callbacks, I'll say I'll call you back and I don't, and that's my bad like for real.

Speaker 1 16:19

So Edna Was one of my friends, was very active on Facebook, so I would always see a post.

Speaker 1 16:28

You know I would comment, would comment here and there, should send me voice notes on Facebook messenger.

Speaker 1 16:37

We would promise to call and catch up and you know, sometimes you send each other to two minutes Voice notes for like a whole day and you're like, oh, I feel like, you know, that's kind of like a phone call. So next time and the last time I had from home Was when season six was up and popping. She was very active on On my episodes and she reached out to me and she told me she's Dealing mentally and she's happy that I am out here sharing my messages and talking to people and Healing and she's been going to a therapist and she's working on a shit. And then there's an episode, excuse me, oh, then there was an episode I did with Golda I believe it was episode 6 about boundaries and on that episode, I shared something about how sometimes being busy doesn't mean you're productive, and she responded to me and she shared how that was so true and how she could relate to that, and she even gave me a message to share with you all. So hold on, listen to this.

Speaker 2 18:03

Hey, seema, I hope you're okay. Seesu Kwa Seema, I was watching your segment. You said one sentence that really touched me. You can be busy the whole day, but then you cannot be productive. That's life, that's my life and that's normal people's life. You know you have to do things, but it's like a zombie, and I wanted to give you also an advice, as in something you can share with your people.

Speaker 2 18:47

Chakwanza ni kwa mba. People need to accept Number one. Accept kwa mba. You're not perfect. Accept nani kwa baari, you're not perfect. Not ele pretending everyday, pretending kwa mba, minawesa seu kitugiani, seu aizekani nitaweza nita pambana. Everybody wants to be strong in all that stuff. We all want to be strong in stuff like that. Chakwanza ni kwa mba. We have our limitations and there is nothing wrong with that. That is something that people don't discuss. We're going to try to push ourselves and there's something that we're supposed to be doing, but then there is nothing wrong with you actually having ma pungu fu. You know, don't expect to be perfect, just expect to do your best. Basically, pay me for this bitch. Love you.

Speaker 1 19:57

When she sent me that voice note, that voice note, I was like tell them yourself. I want you to either send me a speak pipe about this or come to my talk. She will be a guest on season 7 and let's talk about this shit. You know, and she was excited and we had plans, she was going to be a guest for season 7. We were going to do some shit together and after that, after that, she sent me this message.

Speaker 2 20:28

Thank you, girl. I'm so sorry that I sent you a missed call. I appreciate you. I'm going to pay attention more to other people's feelings too, because my father is a child. You know I'm not going to be a good person, is it, papa? God, your words just got me my feelings Bitch. Stop it. I wish you were here or I was there and we could have just had cocktails. I love you, paula. I will talk to you soon. Call me to pick your story too, and to pick your two stories, that's it. That's all I'm asking. To pick your story too, that's it.

Speaker 1 21:27

And that was the last message I received from her. That was the last thing she told me. I promised I'd call her and I never did. And now I can never call her Ever. And that was one of the hardest pills to swallow, knowing that I had the opportunity to call her. But I never did. And now I can't Ever.

Speaker 1 22:01

And I shit fucks with you mentally. You mess me up. Grief is a mother fucker. One minute you feel like you're okay, like it's okay, we are all going to die, this is where we are heading. And then, one minute, you remember what you didn't do, what you could have done. How selfish was I to not give a fuck. Do I even deserve to grieve? Because clearly I didn't give a fuck. I didn't call her back, I didn't check on her. She needed me. All she wanted was to talk to me, that's all. And I was so busy doing what? So busy that I couldn't return a call to my oldest bestest friend. So I just want to remind you why you still can make those calls, talk to your people Just because they're active on social media and they post and you see their post. That doesn't mean let's check on them, call her, have those conversations, laugh, joke, whatever you do, there's not going to have those moments once they're gone and that's something I have to live with forever In that taboo Ahhhh. So this summer I lost not only two, but three. Me and my best friend were trying to rebuild our friendship and we realized I don't know if we realized or we just gave up on trying and then maybe it's not time so I lost three best friends this summer. May 11th, july, 2nd June will never be the same. These dates have been branded in me. So cheers to surviving the hottest summer of my life, of my growth, my grown woman life. Because losing kids, losing friends, best friends. Where you're a kid, you know you're home, you have support, you have your family, when you're 34, most of your friends are building lives and you feel the friendships, the sadness, the loss in a different way, especially when we know how much hard it is to get genuine people in your life to build those friendships. So cheers to me surviving the hottest summer of my life, my adult life. Adulting is fucked up, y'all Alright.

Speaker 1 25:18

Now that we've gone through that shit right, let me tell you about season 7. Who's excited? I am excited. Oh my God. I have incredible, incredible guest lined up this year I was able to attend. I got invited. Shout out to Jason of our, who connected me with people, invited me to an award show. I went to the first award show, the boarding awards and talk show with P. I became media, was given a chance to be media, so I met a lot of people who some of them are going to be part of season 7, some maybe 8, we don't know yet. But I met incredible people. I got connected with humans who are doing amazing shit, not only in Atlanta but everywhere else. I got to have conversations that were impactful for me and just be around black excellence, just being around incredible talent, just being around people doing the same thing. That was fun. So shout out to Mr Borden, mr Dante, for inviting me and having me there. I had a blast and I can't wait for you to see the conversations I had with some of the honorees from this event.

Speaker 1 26:40

Alright, and the lineup goes from AI talk to Barbie to deep compositions, to a lot of laughter, a lot of some mean mugging, but a lot of knowledge, a lot of inspiration, a lot of gems. You're going to get in there, things that I hope you're going to take away and they're going to help you. Just me recording those. I was like fuck, this is amazing. So I hope you all feel the same way when you listen to them.

Speaker 1 27:16

Oh, my God, you all know I've been working on my book, right, but I suck at writing y'all. But ToxTruP had his first sponsor and it's right for you with my girl and liquidity. So she's been helping me write my book. Hopefully before the end of this year it's going to be done. Hopefully I can have some shit to bring to Podfest and then, if I say next year, if not, it's going to be out next year, either by May, mental health awareness month or my birthday June, I can't decide, but it's going to be out next year.

Speaker 1 27:54

If you have been struggling with writing your book and you want to get that shit done, check out, write For you and hire my girl, elliquity. She's amazing. She's been really helping me mind mapping it and I've been having fun recording my book and sharing it and I can't wait for you all to finally have this. I can't wait to collaborate with Gayla. Yes, gayla, you are doing my cover book. Just thinking about the idea of how I want my cover art to be for this book and I have to send out photo release forms to all the pictures I want to use in my books. So some of you will be getting an email for you to give me the rights to share the pictures. I will be showing you the pictures that I will be using. I'm just excited. It's so exciting to be able to write this book and now I'm not only writing one book, I'm writing two books.

Speaker 1 28:50

This is the importance of community, the power of community, the power of showing up. Most of you all know I'm a big, big fan of Port Fest and I meet a lot of incredible people at Port Fest. I connect with a lot of people. So I met Sabina last year at Port Fest and it was while we were heading to the Mopad after party on the bus. I hanged up with her while we were waiting for the bus and we wrote together and since then we've just been in each other, cheering for each other and supporting each other. At that time she didn't have our podcast and right now she has a podcast with almost, I believe, already 100 episodes. She's starting a new podcast with a friend, laura, who I also met at Port Fest, and she's working on a book where she's bringing incredible stories. We're going to be co-authentic. So I met some of the ladies last week when we had our first meet-up and it's incredible stories.

Speaker 1 29:48

Everybody is getting to share their story, their journey, to empower, to inspire, to educate. Just people are there and to share our journey, so I am excited about that. So next year those will be two books. I went from not being an author to going to have two books out in 2015. I am fucking excited. I am major thrilled and I just can't wait to see what that brings out, the journey of that, because I know how podcasting is brought to me, what this journey is brought to me. So I'm looking forward to seeing the journey of being an author, what comes with it and all that Just to have a book out there by Paula. You all don't understand this. For many of you who have known me, I've talked about writing a book and I've shared different concepts. I have different books in my head that I want to write and this is the first step to all that. So I am excited, y'all.

Speaker 1 30:59

Apart from that, y'all know, as I say, podcast is my shit. Podcast is coming back for its 10th year anniversary. That's going to be amazing. Oh my God, it's 10th year anniversary and I've been chosen to speak as a Pecha Kucha speaker. I'm looking forward to it. I can't wait. You know, podcast is like going home for Thanksgiving, like getting to reconnect with your favorite aunties, uncles, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews. Podcast just makes me feel like I'm going home and I'm looking and that shit is in January, january 24th to 26th, I believe 23rd. I will get the date right. Oh my God, hold on. When is podcast? Let's take a minute and check it out right now. All right, podcast export 10th anniversary. It is going to be drum roll, please, january 25th to 28th. That's podcast export 25th to 28th and I am looking forward to it, to reconnecting with my people, to hanging out with my people, to being on the stage and sharing my shit and just I am excited. The knowledge, the support, the love it's just incredible. I can't wait to be in that room.

Speaker 1 32:41

No, speaking of podcast, I have only spoken on podcast stage and I believe last year. I found out a weekend before it was happening about Afros and Algiers. Excuse me, I was being interviewed by Michelle and we talked a bit and she was like hey, I'm adding to Philadelphia next week for Afros and Algiers. I was like, what is Afros and Algiers? So she told me about it. I was like man, I wish I knew earlier I would have come. But after that I went and followed them and I even started following Black Podcast Association. Shout out to Corey, who has been a great mentor, a great support and just the knowledge and everything he keeps doing out there in New York and just supporting podcasters all over is incredible. So I started following them and showing up for as much as I could and I say this year I do have to go to Afros and Algiers and just for the sake of it, I threw myself out there and I applied to be a speaker and, oh my God, I got accepted to be on a panel and we just had our first panel meeting last week and we actually have one on Wednesday when this episode comes out. We have one at 8 pm. All my panelists that I'm going to be with. The energy is amazing, but they are incredible. I learned so much. The meeting was so empowering and I volunteered to be a moderator.

Speaker 1 34:13

I've never done a moderator and I feel like why the fuck not, you know, in order for you to be good at anything or see if you like it or not is to actually try doing that shit. Maybe I make a fool of myself, so what? But I always fucking did it. I hope I don't because I want to be able to give a good. I want people to live and be like them. That was a good ass room. The moderator did the damn shit. But also I am scared, I am nervous, but I am excited and I'm ready for the challenge. And my team has been amazing. They know it's my first time doing it and they're willing to support and help me with anything I need. So I'm looking forward to that and I love that I allow myself to go for this shit Because I believe if I ever want to be a good aesthetic speaker and continue being on these bigger stages, not just to speak but to give back by either being a moderator or by a panel whatever ways you got to keep trying, you got to keep doing.

Speaker 1 35:20

You got to show up. So I am excited that I am showing up, not only for Portfis but for Afro-Energist. There's something about having a full on black community that understands what the fuck you're doing. That is talented, that is empowering, that we are all out here doing the same thing. So I am so excited to go and just be in that atmosphere, be with my people, where I can learn, I can grow and continue creating in this environment.

Speaker 1 35:52

And I'm not saying anything against other conferences. I mean Portfis is one of the most multi-fac-like Portfis. I have my black people, I have my white people, I have my age. It is full on everybody and I love it. It is very. I think that's one of the reasons why I keep showing up at Portfis and loving it, because it is very.

Speaker 1 36:14

What's the word? I'm looking About everybody. You know. It involves everybody, it brings everybody. It doesn't care whether you're white, you're black or anything. It's really a platform that gives chances and space for everybody. But at least to say I still want to be around my people. So to be in a room where everybody is black you're not searching for the black person, but everybody is black that also brings a different kind of level Because there's so much you can learn where it's everybody. But we also have our own struggles that people won't understand, our own, and we're not necessarily every time we want to teach. Sometimes you just want to be in a space where you can just talk the shit without having to teach somebody why this feels like that.

Speaker 1 37:03

So it's just exciting and for anybody who's interested, afros and Audios is happening in Baltimore on October 21st, 22nd and I am. If you're going to be there, hit me up, let's meet up, but I will definitely be there. I'll be on the mental health panel and I believe our panel is on the last day, second last, and which I love Because it will already give me an idea out of already attended different panels, seeing how other moderators are found and all that shit. And you know, kind of put it in there. And again, most of you know I talk about this a lot and I share been going to the Empowered Podcasting Clubhouse Room Monday to Friday, 7 to 8, every fucking day when I can, and that room is one of the reasons I keep going for this shit, because the knowledge that gets in there, the support, the. There's no better way for me to start my mornings than being in a room full of podcasters just sharing shit. So Fridays we have our spins and wins, where we spin, ask questions and share our wins. Wednesdays are a news day, which I love because I suck at finding podcasting news, so they give us the feedback and every other day is just before we have topics we go on, and it's just been an incredible support which led to me. Because of that room, I ended up applying for an award, which I actually got nominated. So I can whether we know or lose, I can say Talks she Will Peace and nominated podcasting.

Speaker 1 38:51

Because I got nominated and it was supposed to be two weekends ago, august 25th, it was supposed to be in Detroit. I was going to go, I was going to fly in for a night, I was going to be with Chris and Amanda and Chris's wife, all these people from the empowered podcasting room. We were going to meet up, they were going to be my dates, we were going to have a nice night. Then the world show got cancelled because of some flooding in the hotel and they pushed it to October 6th, which I'm not sure if I'll be able to make it or not, since after now just is just later on. I don't know if I can do both flights at the same time. Financial wise, where you're independent podcasting, you have all these other stuff. You can't attend everything. You have to pick and choose. But then I was still going to go to Detroit and we were planning to do our all other just hang out, ask and meet and cheer.

Speaker 1 39:45

But sadly the weekend of August 25th, we all know, detroit got flooded in the airport. A lot of people got stuck, flights were cancelled, a lot of what's going on and even my friends were in Detroit. They lost power for like 24 hours. Some states could evacuate or on a locked and so it was. It felt like then maybe I'm supposed to meet them at a different time so I didn't end up going. But it was the fact that they were like, oh my god, paula is coming to Detroit. We're going to make time and hang out with her and meet her and because of just the community we have created in the empowered podcasting club or stream, like people show up for you wherever you are.

Speaker 1 40:35

Sid was in Florida and I see this in Florida. She drove to meet him. You know Dowson, who has been on my sorry Dominic, who has been a guest on my podcast he was actually my season finale last episode. He's coming to Atlanta before our first and our years. We might end up being on the same flight because I haven't booked my flight yet, but he's leaving from Atlanta to go to our first and our years. On the same day I'm leaving so I might see him here and then go there. So and I found two other people who also live in Atlanta were in that room and we're planning on meeting up and see how we can keep supporting each other, especially in creating content and being each other's support, since we're in the same city and she's even she lives even closer to me. So it's just having that knowing that people want to meet up with you, people want to meet you in real life because of just you showing up in these rooms and being a community, creating the community and being a support for each other. So it's incredible and I'm looking forward to making the rounds and finally meeting everybody.

Speaker 1 41:42

We have Nick, who got featured, if you're on my newsletter last week I featured him who's going to be a first time father and me and him have this brotherly sister relationship love, hate. So it just brings a dynamic and he but you will hear me giving him his prose, like I literally gave him his prose and his flowers because it's incredible at what he does and he meant Mark, mark, oh my God, I don't know how much shit I would have to say about Mark is just amazing. I mean him go back from Port Fest to empowered podcasting room and it's just. It's just an incredible support system person. You know they're going to him and Nick are going to be guests on season seven. We had a blast. We drank beer and talk, some AI and barbeque.

Upcoming Projects and Events

Speaker 1 42:33

So I'm just, I'm just excited at how all you really need is to find out communities that go with your core values, that go with your purpose. Join them and show up and you will. The love that you pour into that room will be poured back onto you and on those dark times, on those that love is going to shine on you. So I also want to say he sent some love and light to Amanda. She lost her dog that same weekend. I was going to go to Detroit. So she, you know, when you lose a pet, that's like your child. You know their family. So it's not easy, especially when you're not expecting it. And so send us some love, some positive light. You know she always lights me up with a tick tock. She's such a bubbly person. I love Amanda and I was so excited to meet her and I still can't wait to one day meet her.

Speaker 1 43:32

So you know, in other news I am working on some other segments. Shout out to Adam of Business Podcasting School, who gave me an assignment on my podcasting audit, and I am working on it. I haven't forgotten. I will be bringing a session like around table kind of thing, like how Adam does his podcast. I'm not sure yet if I'm going to be doing it on Zoom or Instagram. I'm still working on the same and I want to bring it on when I come up with season eight. So that will be it. So I'm still working on it and in the meantime, me and my girls, krita and Malaysia. Krita has been on my podcast where we talked about red flags, malaysia. I'm still trying to get her to come on my podcast. So maybe one day.

Speaker 1 44:18

But we will be doing once a month IG live, and it's going to be the last Sunday of the month. It's going to be like, you know, have lunch with us, have a drink with us. We're going to talk what we've been doing in that month and we're going to share what we want to be accountable for the next month so that we can plan our goals there. And every month we're going to choose a topic, whether it's love, whether it's boundaries, whether it's gratitude, whether it's dating whether and just have those conversations for 45 minutes to an hour and we'll be bringing guests or maybe even pulling strangers from the show to join us and share their perspective. But we just want to keep creating communities where we have these conversations and just be a part of each other's conversation. So that's going to be September. It's coming to you. So, as I say, we are starting it up with September and we're going to be doing it the last Sunday of the month. So which this one means it's going to be? Do we have September 31st? No, so this one is going to be 24th. So 24th September, keep an eye out for our IG segment live, join us, have some fun with us, talk some shit with us and, just you know, give us ideas. What would you want to be discussed? What would you want to see? And I know we are girls, so we are going to be having a lot of male guests so that we can have a different perspective and learn from each other in a men world and in a woman's world, in our ideas, and just get that shit. So those are the two projects I'm working on. And talk, share with me is bringing rough shit with me. Wrap yes, like wrap. With the holidays coming.

Speaker 1 46:14

Most of you know this. If you know me, I'm very good at gift giving. I'm very thoughtful gift giver. I because I pay attention when I'm getting to know somebody, so I end up knowing, listening and paying attention and end up buying gifts that you're actually going to use, that you actually needed or wanted, even though you didn't know you did so. A lot of my friends are like you should start. I like a company where you advise people and you know people come. People don't like gift giving. People don't know how to choose gifts. You know you can consult. You know you come to me, you tell me about your person and what kind of gift you want and then I come up with something and help you. I can even put it together or give you the links for you to go there. I'm still working on it. I already have an Instagram page Wrap like wrap the view, wrap shit with me. Let's wrap some shit. So go follow and stay tuned because it's coming.

Speaker 1 47:17

As I said, I am working on a lot of shit. 2014 might have not been what I wanted it to be, but I did say that I am going to be intentional intentional with my time, intentional with the things I'm working, intentional with the connections I'm creating, just so I can plant the seeds for 2015. Because 2014 was a fucked up year Doesn't mean we got to sleep and not plan for 2015. And then a plan Sometimes it doesn't have to produce. You just got to plan and let the next year be the producing. So we have wrap, shit, repeat.

Speaker 1 47:54

We have the mini series that I'm still thinking about. If Zoom or IG, we have the branch with the girls. We're still coming up with our name, which is going to be every last Sunday of the month. We don't have time yet, but it's coming. We're trying to figure out a time where people can both tune in and enjoy some time with us, because it's a Sunday again, but it's the first episode. The first live will be on September 24th, so stay tuned, join us, be part of. You can say that. Oh my God, I was there from the first IG live video. Don't sleep on us. We're going to entertain you, I promise.

Speaker 1 48:35

And again, when it comes to speaking gigs, I am looking forward to being on this panel and moderating it After an hour. Just remember, it's going to be in Baltimore October 21st in early six. Come out, if you can, you know. Come out, show some love, support, be part of an incredible community and learn some shit. Okay, and also, if you have never been to Port Fest, what better time than the 10th year anniversary at Port Fest? Like it's going to be incredible. It's 10 motherfucking years. So that's going to be in January 2020, january 2024.

Speaker 1 49:12

Why do I keep on saying 2014? I'm sorry, but it's going to be in January 25th to 28th in Orlando, florida. So hit me up if you want any links for this. They're going to be on the show notes, but you can always send me a DM and I'll be glad to pass it on to you. I'm looking for more speaking gigs on. I put myself out there. I'm looking to learn more, to create more and just continue embracing this journey. So, until then, watch out for season seven. It's coming, it's here. We're going to have our blast and look out for my book. You know it's going to be out there.

Speaker 1 49:55

But thank you all for tuning in and again, I'm going to remind you all love on your people, return those calls, check on people just because they post on social media. I don't mean, it is what it is. Sometimes people have automatic. Sometimes people post because that's how they deal with whatever they're going through and half of the time especially me right now being in the content creating industry some of the things I create and post those pictures, those videos are from a month ago, two months. I am posting is a necessary of what I am doing right now. So just because people are posting right there and then doesn't mean they are okay right there and then so check on your people, make those calls. You don't want to be like me and regret and this is not how.

Speaker 1 50:47

I would have wanted you to be a guest on Talk Share With PN, but I'm glad you finally made an appearance in Talk Share With PN. Thank you for always listening and sending me your opinions. Thank you for loving me that much to want me to just call you and talk some shit. Thank you for being part of my life. Thank you for being a real one, because you just did that. You did your life the way you did, and I think me and you, our friendship, lasted is because we allowed each other to be unapologetically, unauthentically ourselves and you leave that and your kids saw it, your boys, they saw it and they did the same. And I am going to keep praying and checking up on them, boys, until my last breath. I love you and rest in peace.

Speaker 1 51:45

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